Connect With Yourself First

Happy Valentine’s Day! I know this day can bring up a lot of emotions, positive and negative, whether you are single or in a relationship. I also know that the most effective way to be able to relate well with others - our loved ones and otherwise - is to connect to ourselves first.

What do I mean by this exactly?

I mean being able to turn toward yourself at least once a day and have the kind of conversation that you would have with someone you love - like a dear friend, your partner, or a child in your life. And ultimately, the idea is to be relating to others and to what life brings you from this place of connection with yourself first.

In our lives, this kind of connection to ourselves can come, and it can go, if we are not practicing it regularly. For some of us, we may not remember ever having felt this kind of connection with ourselves. (It has been new for me, as you will see below.) You may be reading this and thinking, “Milisa, I have never related to myself in this way and it’s not ever going to happen. It’s not possible.” Well, I am here to say that shutting down possibility here is a devastating thing to do to yourself. Would you say that type of thing to another person you cared about? I am sure the answer would be no. So, please be open to this possibility. This is work, yes, and the rewards are oh so great. It will transform your life if you can practice and get better at connecting with yourself regularly. I can tell you this from my personal experience and also from witnessing the change in my clients and also many women in Feminine Power programs with me. As a result, you will begin to have a supportive relationship with yourself, which is a foundation from which you can create the life that you desire, including the connection to others that you are yearning for. I am not kidding. It’s true. It’s so worth it!!

So starting right now, on Valentine’s Day, I invite you to make this commitment to yourself: you will find ways to connect with yourself on a daily basis. It is not easy work and it takes practice. And actually, paradoxically, it is very diffcult to do by ourselves, especially at first. Most of us need guidance. I know I did and still do at times. Indeed, in my first one-one coaching conversation with Claire Zammit, the founder of Feminine Power, her invitation to me was exactly this - connect with myself first before relating to others. Over time, I realized that, for all the work I had been doing on myself, I was still very outwardly focused, even as I was good at making room for my self-care. With Claire's coaching and lots of practice and support since, I have cultivated a much better connection to myself, my feelings and my needs. Because I am now living the incredible effects of that connection in all facets of my life, I am so honoured and excited to now be sharing this work with people in my coaching and facilitation practice.

If you are committed to forging this connection with yourself, I invite you to join me next week for our February Feminine Power Women’s Circle – the theme is Connecting! I also invite you to consider joining me at my upcoming 2-Day Feminine Power workshop, which I am offering as a weekend Retreat, in a gorgeous spot with incredibly nourishing food and yoga classes to help you ground and integrate! And if a one-one conversation feels best right now, do take advantage of my offer of a Discovery Session.

Let’s all make it a habit and connect with ourselves regularly and create the lives we are deeply desiring to live and the change in the world we are desiring to see – that is what is possible here!

Big Valentine’s Day hugs, Milisa

P.S. If you are a man reading this, I invite you to forward it to a woman in your life who might benefit from these opportunities. Thanks!