Milisa Burns 5/21/24 Milisa Burns 5/21/24

Using Anger to “Shore Up” Presence

Multitudes of women have shared with me over the 19 years that I’ve been a coach, that, above all, they desire to feel more present in their lives - to be able to be enjoying their lives and more of the experiences that they’re having. In this post I share an anecdote where I used my imagination to “shore up” my presence involving:

boundaries

anger; and

river imagery.

I hope this post is even a fraction as inspiring for you to read as it has been for me to write.

Milisa Burns 5/13/24 Milisa Burns 5/13/24

Mother’s Day Wishes & Reflections

Whether you’re a biological mother or not, and no matter your gender, let’s celebrate our incredible feminine* capacity for receptivity - opening our hearts and receiving and tapping into the love that’s flowing all around us and running through us and between us.

Milisa Burns 3/1/24 Milisa Burns 3/1/24

Seeing the World with New Eyes (Literally)!

I’m in awe of what I’m seeing now that I have new lenses in my eyes - I’m literally seeing the world with new eyes. I had cataract surgery in January. (Cataract surgery is considered major eye surgery - they broke up my lenses with a laser, removed them and implanted new lenses.)

Milisa Burns 2/16/24 Milisa Burns 2/16/24

The Lake of Your Heart 💙

What would it be like for you to plunge (or even dip a toe) into the lake of your heart? Come join me in this Making Room For YOU experiment… To turn inward this Valentine’s Day (or any other day!) and swim around in the welcoming waters of the lake of your heart.

Milisa Burns 10/30/23 Milisa Burns 10/30/23

No Longer Letting Words Fuel Our Self-Doubt

As a transformational coach and facilitator and as someone who strives to "walk her talk", I'm all about questioning deeply-held assumptions and beliefs. Reading Pip Williams' debut novel The Dictionary of Lost Words was a transformational (and enjoyable) experience for me. In this post, I explore some of that transformation and invite you to consider what words you want to redefine or invent.

I grew up being quite the rule abider, a perfectionist and a people pleaser. This was my mentality: Tell me the rules. I will follow them and I will do my best to excel. That worked well enough for me until my twenties when, as a newly minted corporate lawyer, I started to question everything.

Milisa Burns 9/13/23 Milisa Burns 9/13/23

Boundary-Setting Inspiration from Lord of the Rings

I’ve long struggled with setting boundaries, personally and professionally, in a way that is more compassionate and self-compassionate, rather than rigid and resentful. A perennial people pleaser, I’ve had to practise saying anything other than a full on “yes” when responding to a request. In this post I share a big shift I had around boundary-setting which has resulted in me feeling both encouraged and understood by my family when I need to take time to myself, to gather my strength and reconnect with my courage and clarity.

Milisa Burns 10/6/22 Milisa Burns 10/6/22

Transforming Leadership

What happens when… 8 highly experienced and determined leaders, in consulting, facilitation and coaching, meet regularly for a year to create something useful and valuable for leaders and their organizations? In our case, we wrote an ebook called Transforming Leadership!

Milisa Burns 4/21/22 Milisa Burns 4/21/22

You're Invited to a Special Event Next Week!

Explore pleasure & the five senses as a way to open up, connect with the pulse of life, and exhale into a sensual summer. There’s an incredible group of women forming and we’re so excited to create something replenishing and galvanizing together.

Milisa Burns 12/22/21 Milisa Burns 12/22/21

Pareto's 80 - 20 Principle - A Slight Twist

I wanted to share one thing I’m celebrating, hoping it’s meaningful and maybe helpful to you too, during what can be a very overwhelming time of year even without the Pandemic.

Milisa Burns 10/19/21 Milisa Burns 10/19/21

How Are You at Apologizing (or Not)?

Inspired by Harriet Lerner's recent book Why Won't You Apologize? Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts, I've been thinking a lot about apologizing lately and how I can be better at it.

Milisa Burns 7/16/21 Milisa Burns 7/16/21

Where's the Magic in Your Mess?

Here’s a story from my life where things were messy and magical at the same time – often the case, right?

Milisa Burns 10/21/20 Milisa Burns 10/21/20

Want to Unlock the "Fullness of Life", Even Now?

More than ever these days it's important to Make Room for gratitude in our lives. And it's likely easier to do than you think, with very potent researched-backed benefits. Leverage the power of gratitude and unlock the fullness of your life right now!

Milisa Burns 5/20/20 Milisa Burns 5/20/20

Considering Ourselves Leaders

Have you noticed that many people, especially women, don't consider themselves to be leaders, even though they are clearly often exhibiting leadership qualities? I have certainly seen this, and lived it too. Leadership needs some redefining and redesigning.

Milisa Burns 3/24/20 Milisa Burns 3/24/20

Growing: Courageous, Powerful and Connected

I have been spending the quiet time that I have in this very full “nest” of ours ;) reflecting on how to get really creative in the midst of these unusual times. The theme of growing has been front and centre for me, even more than usual. My intention is to help us all feel even more grounded and connected to ourselves and each other so that we can be courageous and can grow into this challenge, finding the opportunities in it.

Milisa Burns 3/8/20 Milisa Burns 3/8/20

Happy International Women's Day!

I thought something fun might be in order today as we celebrate International Women's Day, so wanted to share this quick story.

Milisa Burns 3/6/20 Milisa Burns 3/6/20

It’s Time for Us to Be Smarter with These Big Feelings

These times are providing an opportunity for us to grow and become more emotionally intelligent. Emotional intelligence is about being smarter with our feelings, bringing our cognition and our feelings together. (Definition from SixSeconds.org) Our feelings are important data to take in; we ignore them at our peril.

Milisa Burns 2/19/20 Milisa Burns 2/19/20

More About Love 2.0 - It's So Important!

Previously, I shared a message about the re-definition of love, sourced from research by the brilliant Dr. Barbara Fredrickson and her team and set out in Love 2.0: How Our Supreme Emotion Affects Everything We Feel, Think, Do and Become (2012). This note builds on the ideas in a bit more detail - they are so important for us to take in as we become more and more immersed in our virtual worlds. The research contained in Love 2.0 emphasizes the importance of being together in flesh and blood. In fact, being together in person is a requirement of Love 2.0. The in-person requirement is what I want to highlight here.

Milisa Burns 2/14/20 Milisa Burns 2/14/20

Love 2.0 - A Super Powerful Re-Definition of Love

On Valentine’s Day, when the focus is on romantic love, I want to deliver a message about a re-definition of Love, sourced from research by the brilliant Dr. Barbara Fredrickson and her team. Dr. Fredrickson is a pre-eminent authority on “positive emotions”, where Love reigns supreme. She is the author of Love 2.0: How Our Supreme Emotion Affects Everything We Feel, Think, Do and Become (2012), as well as Positivity (which I blogged about years ago).

Milisa Burns 1/29/20 Milisa Burns 1/29/20

Do You Believe in Synchronicities?

Do you believe in synchronicities? (I do. I want to make empowered meaning wherever I can get it!) I want to share a very fresh synchronicity – it just happened a few minutes ago. So, as you may know, I am hosting the first ever Making Room For YOU Circle tomorrow night. And, I have been planning on using the brilliant Claire Zammit’s Feminine Power visioning circle outline as the main structure for the Circle. It’s what I have used for the last two years and it is hugely effective.

Milisa Burns 1/28/20 Milisa Burns 1/28/20

It’s Cold and I’m Tired… Why Would I Go Out to a Circle?

You might well ask: Why would I make the effort to brave a dark, cold January night, after a long day, to join a Visioning Circle? Well, to answer your question, the bottom line is, the effort will pay off for you in spades – you may arrive tired, and even overwhelmed, but you will leave with a level of energy and clarity about your intentions for the year (and beyond!) that will be galvanizing for you. You will have clear steps to implement right away and a feeling that you are well supported.

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