Fun is Not a Luxury
In my conversations with other women over the years, I have heard over and over about their yearning for Fun. But they often hold themselves back from creating fun in their lives - they see it as a luxury. I too am guilty of this. But Fun is not a luxury. It is not selfish. It is an essential ingredient in our lives. And we need to Make Room For It.
I remember a walk I took in the ravine near my house in the fall of 2015. I was feeling bogged down and overwhelmed by what I had taken on. I had decided to enroll in three year-long courses offered by Feminine Power, so I could become a Certified Feminine Power Coach, Facilitator and Leader (two certifications done, one to go!)
A big part of me was excited about this adventure but that morning I was feeling mostly overwhelmed. I had lost touch with the excitement. I ended up reaching out and calling my dear friend Ellie Ballentine, a fabulous coach and facilitator in Montreal. That morning we made a pact – we were going to make our experience with the courses FUN. It seemed a bit audacious but I also felt the glimmer of possibility in that pact. Looking back, I can see that this one conversation shifted both of us in the moment and beyond. We moved out of feeling victimized by our decisions to feeling a sense of possibility – feeling like creators of our experience. It was a profound shift.
Now almost three years have passed and we still remind each other about that phone call and our pact to each other. The reminder is powerful every time – it shifts us. My lesson – even when circumstances are hard, there is room for FUN. We can intentionally create it. And thus we will be shifted into a more powerful, generative place as we relate and create in our lives in alignment with what is most important to us. Fun is not a luxury; FUN is essential.
How has creating an intention to have fun shifted you?
PS if you want to read more about the importance of fun and joy, see this post about family life and this one about finding joy despite feeling stressed.
