Milisa Burns 5/21/24 Milisa Burns 5/21/24

Using Anger to “Shore Up” Presence

Multitudes of women have shared with me over the 19 years that I’ve been a coach, that, above all, they desire to feel more present in their lives - to be able to be enjoying their lives and more of the experiences that they’re having. In this post I share an anecdote where I used my imagination to “shore up” my presence involving:

boundaries

anger; and

river imagery.

I hope this post is even a fraction as inspiring for you to read as it has been for me to write.

Milisa Burns 5/13/24 Milisa Burns 5/13/24

Mother’s Day Wishes & Reflections

Whether you’re a biological mother or not, and no matter your gender, let’s celebrate our incredible feminine* capacity for receptivity - opening our hearts and receiving and tapping into the love that’s flowing all around us and running through us and between us.

Milisa Burns 3/1/24 Milisa Burns 3/1/24

Seeing the World with New Eyes (Literally)!

I’m in awe of what I’m seeing now that I have new lenses in my eyes - I’m literally seeing the world with new eyes. I had cataract surgery in January. (Cataract surgery is considered major eye surgery - they broke up my lenses with a laser, removed them and implanted new lenses.)

Milisa Burns 11/28/23 Milisa Burns 11/28/23

Wish for Pockets of Silence

My current (and ongoing) wish for you and for me is to be able to pause and find some silence on a regular basis, amidst all the hustle bustle and noise (not to mention Black Friday sales). This morning, "silence" for me was walking to the ravine by myself. That's when this message to you bubbled up.

Milisa Burns 9/13/23 Milisa Burns 9/13/23

Boundary-Setting Inspiration from Lord of the Rings

I’ve long struggled with setting boundaries, personally and professionally, in a way that is more compassionate and self-compassionate, rather than rigid and resentful. A perennial people pleaser, I’ve had to practise saying anything other than a full on “yes” when responding to a request. In this post I share a big shift I had around boundary-setting which has resulted in me feeling both encouraged and understood by my family when I need to take time to myself, to gather my strength and reconnect with my courage and clarity.

Milisa Burns 5/14/23 Milisa Burns 5/14/23

Mother’s Day Gratitude

Being back in London ON recently, I was struck by the beauty in my parents' home and it's surrounding gardens. Their house is filled with art, beautifully curated, something I appreciate much more now than I did as a teenager when I used to drag my feet during our visits to many art galleries.

Milisa Burns 2/10/23 Milisa Burns 2/10/23

A Potent Practice

In this extra busy season, when we can veer in the direction of exhaustion and burnout, I'm practicing giving in a way that feeds me - to be giving of myself instead of giving up myself. (And for me, it's definitely a practice - messy and imperfect and growth-oriented!)

Milisa Burns 2/10/23 Milisa Burns 2/10/23

Finding the Celebration in You

“Life is a dance to the music within you.”

In the last few years I’ve found much better and more consistent access to the party, the celebration, the joy, the music within me. 🎉💃🦋

Milisa Burns 7/28/22 Milisa Burns 7/28/22

Savouring the Rest of Our Summer

Let’s Seize the rest of our summer by savouring some of our favourite summer moments or actiivities! What do you want to savour?

Milisa Burns 5/9/22 Milisa Burns 5/9/22

Hope You Enjoyed Mother’s Day

I hope you enjoyed some moments of goodness, even joy, yesterday, however and with whomever you celebrated.

I savoured some time outside in the backyard reading our book club choice this month, Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole by Susan Cain. A highlight for me was taking in the beauty of our young magnolia tree, which is covered in blooms for the first time ever.

Milisa Burns 4/21/22 Milisa Burns 4/21/22

You're Invited to a Special Event Next Week!

Explore pleasure & the five senses as a way to open up, connect with the pulse of life, and exhale into a sensual summer. There’s an incredible group of women forming and we’re so excited to create something replenishing and galvanizing together.

Milisa Burns 4/22/21 Milisa Burns 4/22/21

Do You Vacillate Between Two Ways of Experiencing Stress?

When you’re under stress, do you ever have the experience of vacillating back and forth between feeling really rigid, constricted or tight, and then at other times, feeling almost like you're in a flood, getting swept away by your emotions and all the messiness of your life?

Milisa Burns 2/4/21 Milisa Burns 2/4/21

Permission to Be Kind to Ourselves

In the last few years, I’ve become increasingly fierce about promoting and validating qualities that have been labelled “feminine”, such as kindness and compassion, and therefore seen as weak or at best, secondary to, “masculine” qualities like rationality and logic. It's time for us all, as human beings, to own the power of these "feminine" qualities within us and each other, and using them for more good, for ourselves and for the world.

Milisa Burns 12/15/20 Milisa Burns 12/15/20

Celebrate? Right Now? Pardon?

I’ve had the concept of “celebrating” swirling around in my head for the last few weeks. It was an intuitive decision and since I made it, I’ve been trying catch up with my intuition about it. ("She" tends to be a bit more audacious than the regular "me". :-)) I’ve been asking myself, why was it so important to celebrate, in this very difficult year, of all years?

Milisa Burns 11/13/20 Milisa Burns 11/13/20

Are You a Giver? What if...?

Let’s face it: many of us were feeling depleted before the pandemic even hit us. And now we’re looking at a long winter without many of our usual ways of coping, let alone thriving. To prepare for this time and even enjoy it, we may need some new tools or perspectives or to be reminded of some "oldies but goodies" we might've forgotten.

Milisa Burns 10/21/20 Milisa Burns 10/21/20

Want to Unlock the "Fullness of Life", Even Now?

More than ever these days it's important to Make Room for gratitude in our lives. And it's likely easier to do than you think, with very potent researched-backed benefits. Leverage the power of gratitude and unlock the fullness of your life right now!

Milisa Burns 4/22/20 Milisa Burns 4/22/20

Small But Mighty Habits For More Flow (and Less Overwhelm)

Being in lack and overwhelm is an obstacle to flow. ("Flow" in this sense, is that experience of living life with more ease and less struggle... when you generally feel open to life and to others around you, working with your circumstances, growing with them, rather than being consistently weighed down, or even knocked down, by them.)

Milisa Burns 3/6/20 Milisa Burns 3/6/20

It’s Time for Us to Be Smarter with These Big Feelings

These times are providing an opportunity for us to grow and become more emotionally intelligent. Emotional intelligence is about being smarter with our feelings, bringing our cognition and our feelings together. (Definition from SixSeconds.org) Our feelings are important data to take in; we ignore them at our peril.

Milisa Burns 2/19/20 Milisa Burns 2/19/20

More About Love 2.0 - It's So Important!

Previously, I shared a message about the re-definition of love, sourced from research by the brilliant Dr. Barbara Fredrickson and her team and set out in Love 2.0: How Our Supreme Emotion Affects Everything We Feel, Think, Do and Become (2012). This note builds on the ideas in a bit more detail - they are so important for us to take in as we become more and more immersed in our virtual worlds. The research contained in Love 2.0 emphasizes the importance of being together in flesh and blood. In fact, being together in person is a requirement of Love 2.0. The in-person requirement is what I want to highlight here.

Milisa Burns 1/24/20 Milisa Burns 1/24/20

Powerful and Fun Conversation with Kim Ades of Frame of Mind Coaching

My friend and colleague Kim Ades, Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching invited me to her podcast. We discuss coaching leadership, parenting, why I run women's circles and the importance of Feminine Power and SheEO.

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